Need for Autonomy

Freedom to be oneself. Often we hope that others to give us this freedom but I find it’s also quite difficult to give this freedom to ourselves. It’s such a beautiful need when we see it in others so why is it so hard to see it’s beauty in us?

Strategies:

Go on walk

I know you probably hear it a lot.. but going on a walk really can make a fascinating difference.

Make a request in conversation

Often in conversation if I’m hearing something as a demand I say something like “I’m needing some autonomy I think because I’d like to be free to disagree but I’m afraid that might sound to you like criticism.” It’s not perfect but it’s something to honor what’s alive in me.

Make art

Whatever kind. A scribble, a drawing, a painting, a piece of music.

Write

I like to get some kind of words on a page. Even if it's garbage I find the process can help.

Play a video game

There is such a wide diversity of video games out there. Calming exploratory games, puzzle games, combat, story, single or multiplayer, etc. Once I get in touch with the need that is alive in me it’s fun to look for a game or game genre that might tend specifically to that.

Road trip

Long or short it doesn't matter. Drive around the block in silence or with music. Maybe plan a trip somewhere.

Sing

Find a private place to sing as loud as you’re comfortable. Sing with your favorite song in the car or if you play an instrument you could play a song you know. Search for a hymn online and sing that.

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